Learning how to stand up after you've fallen
When you work on changing habits, it’s important to give yourself enough leniency to accept that you will occasionally slip back into those habits as you work to change them. Even though you are consciously focused on changing those habits, you are dealing with ingrained behaviors that have likely been performed for quite a long time without any real thought given to the effect those habits have on you.
You will make mistakes occasionally. You will be tempted sometimes and occasionally you’ll fall. And you can choose to blame yourself for what you did, and fall further into a spiral of guilt, or you can take a deep breath, claim responsibility for what you did and re-commit to making the change you know you need to make. And if you can catch yourself when you start to repeat the behavior and you stop yourself from fully following through, congratulate yourself, because you’re learning how to change that behavior. Then keep on focusing on making that conscious change that allows you to change the bad habit into a productive behavior.
It can be hard to change a behavior or a habit. Sometimes, in the process of that change, you can be filled with such longing and desire for what you did. You know what you did wasn’t good, that it hurt you and other people, but you still want it, because it also fulfilled some kind of need. In those moments when you feel that need, be gentle, but firm with yourself. Stick to your boundaries, but sit sit with those desires and feel them. By acknowledging them, you don’t deny their presence. Ask them how you can manifest them in a healthy way, and if you can’t find a healthy way at the time, then be patient and just sit with them. Be aware of them and eventually they’ll fade away.
Recognize that a bad habit or behavior is performed to fulfill a need or desire. Yes, the behavior may seem irrational, but if a need is met a person will indulge in a habit, even if it does no good for that person. By acknowledging that there is a need the habit is fulfilling, you can get to the root of the bad habit and start dealing with that feeling. By talking with your that need or desire you can start to develop a healthier way of satisfying it, so that it doesn’t hurt you and others, but also allows it to no longer be a need.
Bad habits can be changed. We just need to be consciously aware of what causes them. Then we need to focus on changing that, but allow ourselves the space and forgiveness to occasionally slip and fall so that when we do get back on our feet we do so with renewed purpose and inspiration toward changing.
Workshop Reminder!!!
June 7th, 2008 from Noon to 6pm
Come to The Guiding Tree at 4831 SE Division St, Portland OR 97206 for the follow workshops offered by author, innovator, and life coach, Taylor Ellwood:
Body Consciousness: A new paradigm for embracing your body and living your life
In this interactive workshop, we will combine reflective internal meditation with breathing practices and path working techniques that will leave you feeling connected to your body and revitalized in how you live your life. If you’ve felt dis-ease or unhealthy, this workshop will offer you a new paradigm about your body and what it has to tell you about the healthy life you can live. Even if you feel healthy, come to this workshop and get in touch the consciousness of your body.
Come ready to:
- Connect to your body and appreciate it for the miracle it is.
- Listen to the consciousness of your body to learn how to live healthier Work with your residual body image to help you pinpoint how you can change your relationship to your body.
- Learn a meditation that you can use to talk with your body at any time.
Breathe Easy: Simple techniques to energize your life with breath
Each breath taken offers you the potential to live a full life. In this interactive workshop, we’ll learn breathing techniques that will help you feel more energized and aware of your body’s health. When you leave, you will know how to use breath to both relax you and dissolve internal tension and stress.
I will show you how you can even change negative behavior patterns into positive life affirming outcomes.
Come ready to:
- Dissolve internal tensions and blockages Identity and change negative behavior into positive outcomes Breathe easy and enjoy life with renewed vigor Learn how to empty your body of negative emotions and revitalize your energetic self.
Become Who You Want To Be: A Workshop On Identity and You
Have you ever wanted to be someone else? Or have you wished you had more confidence in what you did or felt more focused in achieving your goals in life? How would you feel if you could create a new identity that would let you feel that confidence? In this workshop, I’m going to introduce you to an innovative method where you can create a persona and become that persona when you need it. I will show you how to identify key attributes that will help you define the persona that you create. You will use those attributes to create a Neuro-Linguistic Programming anchor which you can then use to invoke the persona when you need it.
Energize your life: Techniques for creating change in your life
Your energy is your life. If you feel drained after a long workday or being around certain people this workshop is for you! You’ll learn the principle that where your attention your energy flows. We’ll try on some energy work techniques you can use to maximize the energy in your life, while also safeguarding it from energetic leeches and other potential problems. When you leave this call, you will come away with new skills you can use to energize your life everywhere you go.
Come prepared to:
- Learn how to sense your own energy and other people’s energy.
- Adapt yourself energetically and emotionally to your environment.
- Protect yourself from energetic leeches, drama llamas, and anyone else who makes you feel drained.
- Recognize where your attention is going and your energy is flowing so you can reclaim your energy for yourself.
Total cost for the day: $80
Total cost for your sense of health, well-being, and abundance: priceless.
To register call (503)-239-7458 or call (503)-869-0163 or contact us here.
Newsletter 6-2-08
Table of Contents
Introduction
Article: The Value of Sitting with Pain
Workshop on June 7th from noon to 6 PM
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June is here! It’s nearly half way through the year and summer is starting to emerge. Is your year developing the way you want it to? Are you achieving your goals or on your way to achieving them, for this year? If life is coming together for you, then congratulate yourself and keep going. sometimes though we can use a little extra help and support to manifest abundance into our lives.
For June and July I’ll be offering a special deal! If you are a current client and you refer someone to me and that person starts a coaching relationship with me, I’ll take $50 off for that month. If you are not a client, and you refer a client to me I’ll give you TWO free life coaching sessions.
Are you ready to manifest your imagination into reality?
*******Article: The Value of Sitting with Pain
One of the books I’m currently reading is Pema Chodron’s The Places that Scare You. Something that interested me is when she notes the necessity of feeling pain. I agree with her that feeling pain is a necessity. The reason I agree is because pain is a message, an indication of something that needs to be addressed. It seems to me that in many ways this culture attempts to encourage the ignoring of pain instead of sitting with it. Speaking only from my own experiences, I’ve many times tried to run away from pain instead of really face it.
It’s only been in recent years that I’ve started to change that behavior of running away. While I don’t necessarily welcome pain, I no longer try to avoid it or ignore it. Whether it’s emotional pain or physical pain, I’ve found that sitting with it helps a lot more because it allows me to not just feel the pain but also discover the message it has to offer me. When it’s physical pain, such as a headache for instance, it does hurt and it’s not fun to feel. By laying down and just being present with it, I can learn a lot. I can learn if the pain is from too much eyestrain or neck issue. I can also, by sitting with the pain, begin to actually redistribute the energy so that the pain lessens and eventually is healed. I can also then begin to work on the deeper sources of the pain, such as being present with my neck and working on feeling the pain and then dissolving it.
When it’s emotional pain (which sometimes can be linked to physical pain) it’s also important to just feel the pain and sit with it and really find out what you’re feeling. The first impulse is to re-act to the pain, but that impulse is really an attempt to avoid feeling it. Just stay calm…feel the pain, relax into it, and listen to the message it has to offer. Figure out what the source of pain really is, and then act on it, but not before.
When we feel pain, we need to accept it in order to move beyond it. While taking a pain killer might alleviate the obvious symptoms of pain, it doesn’t let us discover the source of it, which is important to really allow healing to occur. Sitting with pain can be a scary experience…it can put us in touch with our mortality, with the fear of being vulnerable or hurt, but sitting with pain can also empower us because it allows us to communicate with the body, instead of trying to control it. In that act of communication, we show the body that we are willing to listen, willing to change, willing to learn…the same is true with the emotional pain we feel. Communicate with it, discover the source of it, and work with it, instead of trying to repress it. When you can do that, you will really have created a cooperative effort with your body.
****Workshop June 7th noon-6pm
June 7th, 2008 from Noon to 6pm
Come to The Guiding Tree at 4831 SE Division St, Portland OR 97206 for the follow workshops offered by author, innovator, and life coach, Taylor Ellwood:
Body Consciousness: A new paradigm for embracing your body and living your life
In this interactive workshop, we will combine reflective internal meditation with breathing practices and path working techniques that will leave you feeling connected to your body and revitalized in how you live your life. If you’ve felt dis-ease or unhealthy, this workshop will offer you a new paradigm about your body and what it has to tell you about the healthy life you can live. Even if you feel healthy, come to this workshop and get in touch the consciousness of your body.
Come ready to:
- Connect to your body and appreciate it for the miracle it is.
- Listen to the consciousness of your body to learn how to live healthier Work with your residual body image to help you pinpoint how you can change your relationship to your body.
- Learn a meditation that you can use to talk with your body at any time.
Breathe Easy: Simple techniques to energize your life with breath
Each breath taken offers you the potential to live a full life. In this interactive workshop, we’ll learn breathing techniques that will help you feel more energized and aware of your body’s health. When you leave, you will know how to use breath to both relax you and dissolve internal tension and stress.
I will show you how you can even change negative behavior patterns into positive life affirming outcomes.
Come ready to:
- Dissolve internal tensions and blockages
- Identity and change negative behavior into positive outcomes
- Breathe easy and enjoy life with renewed vigor
- Learn how to empty your body of negative emotions and revitalize your energetic self.
Become Who You Want To Be: A Workshop On Identity and You
Have you ever wanted to be someone else? Or have you wished you had more confidence in what you did or felt more focused in achieving your goals in life? How would you feel if you could create a new identity that would let you feel that confidence? In this workshop, I’m going to introduce you to an innovative method where you can create a persona and become that persona when you need it. I will show you how to identify key attributes that will help you define the persona that you create. You will use those attributes to create a Neuro-Linguistic Programming anchor which you can then use to invoke the persona when you need it.
Energize your life: Techniques for creating change in your life
Your energy is your life. If you feel drained after a long workday or being around certain people this workshop is for you! You’ll learn the principle that where your attention your energy flows. We’ll try on some energy work techniques you can use to maximize the energy in your life, while also safeguarding it from energetic leeches and other potential problems. When you leave this call, you will come away with new skills you can use to energize your life everywhere you go.
Come prepared to:
- Learn how to sense your own energy and other people’s energy.
- Adapt yourself energetically and emotionally to your environment.
- Protect yourself from energetic leeches, drama llamas, and anyone else who makes you feel drained.
- Recognize where your attention is going and your energy is flowing so you can reclaim your energy for yourself.
Total cost for the day: $80
Total cost for your sense of health, well-being, and abundance: priceless.
To register call (503)-239-7458 or call (503)-869-0163 or contact us here.
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Taylor Ellwood
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Imagine Your Reality Life Coaching
A link to the Radio interview and workshop reminder!
If you missed my radio interview yesterday with Bandora, go here to listen to it now.
I’d also like to thank Bandora for a wonderful interview with excellent questions
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Workshop Reminder!!!
June 7th, 2008 from Noon to 6pm
Come to The Guiding Tree at 4831 SE Division St, Portland OR 97206 for the follow workshops offered by author, innovator, and life coach, Taylor Ellwood:
Body Consciousness: A new paradigm for embracing your body and living your life
In this interactive workshop, we will combine reflective internal meditation with breathing practices and path working techniques that will leave you feeling connected to your body and revitalized in how you live your life. If you’ve felt dis-ease or unhealthy, this workshop will offer you a new paradigm about your body and what it has to tell you about the healthy life you can live. Even if you feel healthy, come to this workshop and get in touch the consciousness of your body.
Come ready to:
- Connect to your body and appreciate it for the miracle it is.
- Listen to the consciousness of your body to learn how to live healthier Work with your residual body image to help you pinpoint how you can change your relationship to your body.
- Learn a meditation that you can use to talk with your body at any time.
Breathe Easy: Simple techniques to energize your life with breath
Each breath taken offers you the potential to live a full life. In this interactive workshop, we’ll learn breathing techniques that will help you feel more energized and aware of your body’s health. When you leave, you will know how to use breath to both relax you and dissolve internal tension and stress.
I will show you how you can even change negative behavior patterns into positive life affirming outcomes.
Come ready to:
- Dissolve internal tensions and blockages Identity and change negative behavior into positive outcomes Breathe easy and enjoy life with renewed vigor Learn how to empty your body of negative emotions and revitalize your energetic self.
Become Who You Want To Be: A Workshop On Identity and You
Have you ever wanted to be someone else? Or have you wished you had more confidence in what you did or felt more focused in achieving your goals in life? How would you feel if you could create a new identity that would let you feel that confidence? In this workshop, I’m going to introduce you to an innovative method where you can create a persona and become that persona when you need it. I will show you how to identify key attributes that will help you define the persona that you create. You will use those attributes to create a Neuro-Linguistic Programming anchor which you can then use to invoke the persona when you need it.
Energize your life: Techniques for creating change in your life
Your energy is your life. If you feel drained after a long workday or being around certain people this workshop is for you! You’ll learn the principle that where your attention your energy flows. We’ll try on some energy work techniques you can use to maximize the energy in your life, while also safeguarding it from energetic leeches and other potential problems. When you leave this call, you will come away with new skills you can use to energize your life everywhere you go.
Come prepared to:
- Learn how to sense your own energy and other people’s energy.
- Adapt yourself energetically and emotionally to your environment.
- Protect yourself from energetic leeches, drama llamas, and anyone else who makes you feel drained.
- Recognize where your attention is going and your energy is flowing so you can reclaim your energy for yourself.
Total cost for the day: $80
Total cost for your sense of health, well-being, and abundance: priceless.
To register call (503)-239-7458 or call (503)-869-0163 or contact us here
